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How to deal with your partner if s/he has separation anxiety?

How to deal with your partner if she has separation anxiety

You will have heard the term “separation anxiety” usually used in conjunction with animals and children, but you may not be aware that adults too can suffer with this condition and at times it can become debilitating.
Certainly adult separation anxiety can devastate relationships, so it is important to take a sympathetic, pragmatic and rational approach.

What is Separation Anxiety?

In children and pets, separation anxiety manifests itself when the sufferer is separated from the primary care giver. In adults, the caregiver is a figure of attachment.

Therefore, adults who suffer with separation anxiety tend to fixate on their spouse or significant other, although it can be their children, their siblings or friends. Estimates in the USA suggest that 6.6% of adults will experience adult separation anxiety at some point in their life, so it is more common than you might imagine. It is more prevalent among women, but does affect men too.
It is less likely to be found among married or cohabiting couples, but can be. It is most likely to be found among those who are separated, widowed or divorced.

The symptoms of separation anxiety in adults

Some of the symptoms that can be found among adults with separation anxiety include:

  • Fear of being alone or separated
  • Fear of harm coming to the person they fixate upon
  • Avoiding being alone
  • Constant worrying and checking
  • Inability/unwillingness to sleep
  • A feeling of being overwhelmed

Tips for dealing with your partner who has separation anxiety

Treat other cases of anxiety, stress or depression first

People with a tendency to adult separation anxiety may well find they suffer in other areas too. IT may be that your partner has a generalised anxiety disorder, and recognising those symptoms and dealing with those can be highly beneficial.

Help them get busy

If you are going to be away, plan with your partner, what they will be doing. This might mean ensuring they are having social contact elsewhere, or it could involve leaving them a book or hobby activities that they can be getting on with. Encourage them to use their time to do things that they might not get to do when you are there, necessarily.

Encourage them to see the time you are away as ‘special me time’

What sort of things can your partner do when you’re not there? Consider spa days, or pamper treatments, or to invite their friends around. Encourage them to do things that help to lessen their anxiety so that they feel calm.

Manage expectations

Be very clear that while you’re away you will only be able to text or call at certain times. Tell your partner, “I’ll be in meetings all day” if this is the case. Manage their expectations about how busy you will be and how you must be professional if you’re away for business.

Give reassurance

Your partner wants to know that they are loved and special in your life. They may well drive you mad by asking for this sort of assurance, but the more patient you can be, the easier all round.

Leave little love notes

Before you go away, hide some little love notes or post-its around the house where your partner will find them. While you’re away, send thoughtful short texts or messages. Send a final message before you go to sleep.

Ask them to keep a journal

Ask them to keep a journal of what they have been up to and what thoughts they had and then share that with them when you get back. Make your partner understand that their day to day life is important to you.

Encourage them to be positive!

Focus on what you will do when you get back from your trip. Plan some treats – movie night in, or date night out!

Support Groups

If your partner has a severe case of separation anxiety, you could consider getting in touch with a local support group if you can find one. Your partner may also be able to access an online forum too, and this might help them while you’re away.

Ask for professional help

If you need further support, there is no harm seeking advice from a professional.

Created by Tom Vermeersch ()

Tom Vermeersch

Tom Vermeersch is a certified Psychologist and Bach flower expert with more than 30 years of experience.

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How to deal with your partner if s/he has separation anxiety?

How to deal with your partner if s/he has separation anxiety?
How to deal with your partner if she has separation anxiety

You will have heard the term “separation anxiety” usually used in conjunction with animals and children, but you may not be aware that adults too can suffer with this condition and at times it can become debilitating.
Certainly adult separation anxiety can devastate relationships, so it is important to take a sympathetic, pragmatic and rational approach.

What is Separation Anxiety?

In children and pets, separation anxiety manifests itself when the sufferer is separated from the primary care giver. In adults, the caregiver is a figure of attachment.

Therefore, adults who suffer with separation anxiety tend to fixate on their spouse or significant other, although it can be their children, their siblings or friends. Estimates in the USA suggest that 6.6% of adults will experience adult separation anxiety at some point in their life, so it is more common than you might imagine. It is more prevalent among women, but does affect men too.
It is less likely to be found among married or cohabiting couples, but can be. It is most likely to be found among those who are separated, widowed or divorced.

The symptoms of separation anxiety in adults

Some of the symptoms that can be found among adults with separation anxiety include:

  • Fear of being alone or separated
  • Fear of harm coming to the person they fixate upon
  • Avoiding being alone
  • Constant worrying and checking
  • Inability/unwillingness to sleep
  • A feeling of being overwhelmed

Tips for dealing with your partner who has separation anxiety

Treat other cases of anxiety, stress or depression first

People with a tendency to adult separation anxiety may well find they suffer in other areas too. IT may be that your partner has a generalised anxiety disorder, and recognising those symptoms and dealing with those can be highly beneficial.

Help them get busy

If you are going to be away, plan with your partner, what they will be doing. This might mean ensuring they are having social contact elsewhere, or it could involve leaving them a book or hobby activities that they can be getting on with. Encourage them to use their time to do things that they might not get to do when you are there, necessarily.

Encourage them to see the time you are away as ‘special me time’

What sort of things can your partner do when you’re not there? Consider spa days, or pamper treatments, or to invite their friends around. Encourage them to do things that help to lessen their anxiety so that they feel calm.

Manage expectations

Be very clear that while you’re away you will only be able to text or call at certain times. Tell your partner, “I’ll be in meetings all day” if this is the case. Manage their expectations about how busy you will be and how you must be professional if you’re away for business.

Give reassurance

Your partner wants to know that they are loved and special in your life. They may well drive you mad by asking for this sort of assurance, but the more patient you can be, the easier all round.

Leave little love notes

Before you go away, hide some little love notes or post-its around the house where your partner will find them. While you’re away, send thoughtful short texts or messages. Send a final message before you go to sleep.

Ask them to keep a journal

Ask them to keep a journal of what they have been up to and what thoughts they had and then share that with them when you get back. Make your partner understand that their day to day life is important to you.

Encourage them to be positive!

Focus on what you will do when you get back from your trip. Plan some treats – movie night in, or date night out!

Support Groups

If your partner has a severe case of separation anxiety, you could consider getting in touch with a local support group if you can find one. Your partner may also be able to access an online forum too, and this might help them while you’re away.

Ask for professional help

If you need further support, there is no harm seeking advice from a professional.




Bach flowers mix 78: Separation anxiety

 Bach flowers mix 78 helps individuals to:

  • Be less dependent 
  • Conquer fears of being abandoned 
  • Panic less quickly 
  • Enjoy being alone again
Discover how Bach flowers mix 78 can help you
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