Everything changes. The way we work, the way we move, the way we communicate: all that has changed in the past. Or are you still using tapes to listen to your music? And this is not only a technical issue. The things we eat, the values we have, the relationships we are in; it seems like nothing is like it was before. So if the world goes on, why should we stay as we are? Exactly, we have to adapt ourselves to the changes of our environment.
Do you remember the fears you had as a child? How do you think about it today? The more we experience, the more we are able to judge or value things more correctly. What has scared us in the past leaves us laughing today. We gained knowledge and experience as we developed in our lives, to help us today to be able judge more sophisticatedly and - even more important - to put things into the right perspective.
Take a look back on your achievements: Presumably you finished school, learned a profession, you have worked, found a partner or founded a family, you had highs and lows and all this contributed to the person you are. Today you know more than you did in the past, your skills have improved, your personality has grown. Why do you think this process is over now? There is no reason to believe it is, that’s why you have no reason to believe that you can’t take on future challenges either.
We all know people who can draw better, play better or sing better than we do. Sometimes it looks like other people do not need to learn things like we used to, their aptitude allows them to achieve better results than we are able to, even if we practice and learn more and more. But aptitude is not everything; even Mozart had to practice everyday since his 5th birthday. The reason is: diligence and endurance are very important aspects too. If there is something new you like to learn, and you feel that you don’t have the aptitude to make it just like that - don’t worry, you can still do it! Learning step by step is the most efficient way to improve one’s skills and abilities, no matter how long it takes, you will move forward every day, bit by bit. Just giving up like that is not a great option.
You feel tired and exhausted and you think that you lack the power to change anything? Every single day we wake up brings new chances, new opportunities and new options to us. We just need to be aware of this fact. Maybe you feel exhausted and tired today, but what about tomorrow? If you are so sure that you will wake up the same way tomorrow, maybe you should go to bed earlier? Or eat differently? Or take measures to have a better night’s sleep? Is it your job? Then get rid of it!! If there are reasons for your exhaustion, you should work on them, eliminate blockades or solve the problems you are dealing with. Maybe you cannot do this on your own, then you should seek professional help! Everybody is exhausted or tired sometimes, but not always!
As long as you are not laying in a hospice, it is not too late for anything. Are you still breathing? Then get up and move on! Time is a relative concept, meaning there is no thing like too late or too early - it always depends on the circumstances. You can be late at the station and still be able to catch the train - if it comes later than scheduled. Furthermore, what is early for one person might be late for another one. Some people finish their studies in the early 20’s; other people are still at the university with 35 years. Will these people all be too late? Rather not. Some of the most famous actors started their career in their late 30’s (like Gene Hackmann) and Morgan Freeman was already 52 years old when he became famous with the movie “Driving Miss Daisy”. If these actors were thinking that they were already too old, we would have much less of these good movies.
Don’t be afraid of changes, it is never too late. Maybe today is not the right moment, but tomorrow the world might look different again. Making changes is quite always just a question of willingness; it is never a question of time. And if you look back at this moment in a few years, maybe this was the turning point in your life? You will never know, unless you try it!
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Tom Vermeersch is a certified Psychologist and Bach flower expert with more than 30 years of experience.
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Take a look back on your achievements: Presumably you finished school, learned a profession, you have worked, found a partner or founded a family, you had highs and lows and all this contributed to the person you are. Today you know more than you did in the past, your skills have improved, your personality has grown. Why do you think this process is over now? There is no reason to believe it is, that’s why you have no reason to believe that you can’t take on future challenges either.
We all know people who can draw better, play better or sing better than we do. Sometimes it looks like other people do not need to learn things like we used to, their aptitude allows them to achieve better results than we are able to, even if we practice and learn more and more. But aptitude is not everything; even Mozart had to practice everyday since his 5th birthday. The reason is: diligence and endurance are very important aspects too. If there is something new you like to learn, and you feel that you don’t have the aptitude to make it just like that - don’t worry, you can still do it! Learning step by step is the most efficient way to improve one’s skills and abilities, no matter how long it takes, you will move forward every day, bit by bit. Just giving up like that is not a great option.
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