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Do you often feel let down by others? Maybe you think that you do stuff for them and never get anything back in return, or perhaps you believe it's just down to bad luck or that you are always too nice. But if disappointment in other people often happens to you, then maybe the reason is you - your expectations may be unrealistic.
So what unconscious behaviours could you be playing out that create a life in which people let you down? And is there a way to break this pattern?
Do you believe that what you give, you should receive an equal measure in return? You see giving as a business transaction. But you should give without any expectation of return.
So next time someone asks you to help them out, only give your time and energy if you feel good about it, and understand that you are doing so without any expectations of the favour being returned. If you find this challenging, try stopping giving altogether until you feel ready to give freely without any strings attached.
Do you know how to say no? Perhaps you aren't setting clear personal boundaries, so others don't understand what you do and do not find acceptable, and you aren't honest about what you do and do not want to do. When you fail to set personal boundaries, you find yourself doing things not because you want to do them but because you don't know how to say no. And if the other person is more assertive with boundaries than you, the result is that you feel disappointed and used.
Imagine how different you would feel if you were more self-confident and you kept more of your energy and time for yourself. Bach Flowers Mix 44 can help you feel more confident and believe in yourself more.
Expectations that are too high damage relationships, leaving us constantly feeling let down. When we have high expectations of others, it blinds us to who the person really is. And in our determination to have our demands fulfilled, we don't see what they can offer us. So it's not that they don't give us anything; instead, we ask them for things they can't provide.
Think about someone that you're having problems with. Now, make a list of your expectations of them. Are these demands fair? Would your relationship improve if you ripped up the list and simply accepted the person for who they are?
Sometimes, you might feel disappointed with someone just because you didn't get your own way! But you can never fully control others. So take a moment to consider the individual who hasn't met your expectations. When did you last think about what they wanted or needed in your relationship?
At first glance, codependent people can seem like they are too nice, giving almost too much. This is because their life revolves around doing things for others and making them happy. But the other side of the coin is that they expect others to do something that makes them happy in return. Unfortunately, it's often too much to ask, and the result is a feeling of disappointment.
It could be that your self-esteem relies too much on your relationships, and you need to build your self-confidence, Bach Flower Mix 78 can help with codependency. It contains Bach flower essences that help avoid panic attacks, overcome the fear of being abandoned and support your self-belief.
If you repeatedly choose toxic partners and friends who are emotionally unavailable, you will feel constantly let down. If you are stuck in a pattern of unhealthy relationships, it may stem from traumatic events or core beliefs instilled in your childhood that continue to control your choices. For example, you may be following the pattern of a relationship you had with a parent growing up.
Think about your friendships or relationships. Did they all start in similar ways, and do the same dramas and power dynamics play out repeatedly?
You may be expecting support from the wrong people, who simply don't have the emotional intelligence to help you. If your feelings of being let down are making life difficult, or you believe they may come from an experience in your childhood, it can sometimes be easier to talk about it to someone other than family or friends. A therapist or counsellor offers a safe, non-judgmental and unbiased environment for you to explore your feelings of being let down by your expectations of others.
You don't always have to say yes, always "be nice" and give more than you want, then always feel disappointed. Nobody is making you do these things; you choose to do them. So you aren't really a victim; you are choosing to be one.
Taking control and being more assertive about your needs can be challenging - these tips will help.
You can't control others, so let go of your expectations. Instead, look around and find things you are grateful for, even when things don't turn out how you hope. Then, rather than being overshadowed by resentment, your life will be calmer, happier and more peaceful.
Sources:
https://www.psychologytoday.com/gb/blog/inviting-monkey-tea/201801/are-you-ready-stop-feeling-victim
https://www.verywellmind.com/what-is-codependency-5072124
Created by Tom Vermeersch (bio)
Tom Vermeersch is a certified Psychologist and Bach flower expert with more than 30 years of experience.
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So what unconscious behaviours could you be playing out that create a life in which people let you down? And is there a way to break this pattern?
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Taking control and being more assertive about your needs can be challenging - these tips will help.
You can't control others, so let go of your expectations. Instead, look around and find things you are grateful for, even when things don't turn out how you hope. Then, rather than being overshadowed by resentment, your life will be calmer, happier and more peaceful.
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